THE GUY next door, your classmate or your chat mate, is he your silent admirer or is he really the guy for you?
Most women (and girls) act solely on instinct which can be helpful in determining if he is the right one, it is important to give it time before reaching that final decision.
But what could be the sign to check if he’s really the one? well, read on to find what.
*Respecting each other. Respect should be at the top of the list. Respect is also something that should go both ways. He should respect you and you should respect him, in turn.
You can tell he respects you when he’s willing to compromise, he listens to your concerns and feelings, he notices when something is wrong and asks you about it, values your opinion, appreciates you and genuinely happy for you when you succeed.
However, you should also demonstrate these same things to him to feel it. But if you find that either of you are unwilling to compromise, concerns and feelings are dismissed, or you notice something is wrong but don’t inquire then you have some tell-tale signs that there is a lack of respect.
*Share the same values. Values are usually in-line with those non-negotiable items that will give you a clue as to whether or no he is the right one. If you don’t share the same values, then he’s not the one.
An important factor to consider is if you find your self compromising your values for him. Values really make up who we are. If you are changing your values in order to please someone else, then you are essentially trying to change yourself and that is never a good sign in a relationship.
Don’t guess at what he values most in life, ask him! If he doesn’t seem to have any values, or he can’t articulate them, that might be another doubt to entertain. A man of real substance is flexible, but will possess firm, well-reasoned values.
*Your gut feeling. This is where women believe in – the gut feeling. However, it should never be the deciding factor. Your intuition should serve as a guide, something you rely on when considering whether or not he is the right one.
Intuition is more than just how physically attracted you are towards him. It’s usually just a sense or a feeling that this person is the right one. Whether your instincts are saying he is or isn’t the one, it’s an important consideration. Many time women instincts are right but sometimes best instincts can be wrong and someone can present themselves to be something that they are not. This is why intuition is only one sign to consider in determining if he is the right one for you.
*He has qualities. You should know ahead of time what qualities are important to you in a mate. Trying to figure it out after the fact can lead to serious problems. If you have a good idea of the qualities you are looking for, it will help you determine if he is the right one.
Select at least 10 qualities you are looking for in a man. Put that list in the order of importance. Take a serious look at the list and cross off any qualities that aren’t so important. Some qualities are probably negotiable. If that is the case, they can likely be removed from the list.
But always keep in my mind that nobody’s perfect. But it doesn’t mean that you just settle for “good enough.” (My Daily Moment)